i love the idea of love; of what you can see on the screen, read in a book, imagine about in your own head. the situations, scenarios and role playing all enacted out in the safety of ones of consciousness is so much safer - the reality is so very much harder.
how can you get to the love part, with out the trust first? trust is left corner stone of love. communication the right, with physicality being another….
i’m still working on the rest…
PASSING stranger! you do not know how longingly I look upon you,
You must be he I was seeking, or she I was seeking, (it comes to me, as of a dream,)
I have somewhere surely lived a life of joy with you,
All is recall’d as we flit by each other, fluid, affectionate, chaste, matured,
You grew up with me, were a boy with me, or a girl with me, 5
I ate with you, and slept with you—your body has become not yours only, nor left my body mine only,
You give me the pleasure of your eyes, face, flesh, as we pass—you take of my beard, breast, hands, in return,
I am not to speak to you—I am to think of you when I sit alone, or wake at night alone,
I am to wait—I do not doubt I am to meet you again,
I am to see to it that I do not lose you.
—“To a Stranger,” Walt Whitman
Watching the #1reasonwhy tag explode on Twitter over the past day has been both heartening and disheartening.
I’m a gamer. I love video games. I have in my collection a Play Station 1, 2 and 3. But not a large collection of console games.
Because out of the games I own, there is only 1 game where there’s a lead female character. Now this maybe because I like action, role playing games. I may have limited myself genre wise (Sims maybe? pffft), but I’m not into ‘fit’ games or ones which are family friendly.
But it took Square Enix thirteen installments before there was Lightning (aka Claire Farron) and Fang. The two kick arse, strongest characters in the latest edition of the Final Fantasy (FF) franchise. I’ve been playing FF games for over a decade. There have been notable female side characters, but none who were driving the story.
I wish I could pick up a game where a character like Sarah Connor out of Terminator 2 or Ripley from Alien were featured. A fully clothed, capable, fighting, unapologetic, non-sexually assaulted (ahem, Lara Croft?) lead character. I wish they were the default option. Where someone who I can identify with and am represented by actually does the world saving, instead of being the prize or catalyst for the adventure.
The #1reasontobe feed is inspiring as even though the #1reasonwhy shows the dark side, the shit women put up with - the #1reasontobe show WHY they do what they do.
The numbers add up - even though the industry is dominated by misogynistic boymen (read some of the verbal and physical assault stories from #1reasonwhy and I feel sick. Assault happening at events like E3 - not to mention the dismissal of women designers, journalists and creatives) - if you ignore 47% of your buying market then no wonder AAA game studios are on the decline.
- The average game player is 30yrs old and has played games for 12 yrs
- The average age of the most frequent game purchaser is 35yrs old
- 47% of all game players are women. In fact, women over the age of 18 represent a significantly greater portion of the game-playing population (30%) then boys aged 17yrs or younger (18%)
The myth of video games being only for boys has had light shone on it and I’m hoping the industry wakes itself out of its adolescent phase. I hope the industry grows, becomes more inclusive and recognises the game playing market is older, gender diverse, colour diverse and smart.
The Geeks have grown up, so why can’t the industry?
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Discovered yesterday though Alison Keene at Collider you can watch Star Wars in a completely different order than the original cinematic release, or chronologically.
Its called Machete. Its a revelation.
As Alison says “[Machete] suggests the watch order should be IV, V, II, III, VI (and leave out Episode I). Ignoring the brush off of Episode I (which I think you might as well watch just as part of the canon)"
I hadn’t thought about the big reveal in Star Wars. How watching in an order other than what I’d grown up with or what was conventional could actually add to the story.
Rod Hilton gave it a LOT of thought which essentially removes one of the most loathed characters in the Star Wars universe - Jar Jar Binks. Taking out Ep 01 also removes the midichlorian explanation (feel yuck just thinking about it), and no immaculate conception of Anakin.
I’m yet to try out the Machete sequence. I’m intrigued enough and the thought of loosing most of Jar Jar Binks is reward enough to give it a go…. hope you will too